Eighth Meeting ~ Magnus Ladulås ~ mutual trust

For the eighth meeting, we stayed in Magnus Ladulås, since we can think of no better place.  The dinner is pricey, and we just go for drinks, now.

The topic this time was:  what makes a person "safe" to share with, to be vulnerable with?  What do you expect in terms of mutual trust?

Some of our ideas were (1) loyalty is important, (2) being able to keep secrets, to not violate the other person, (3) interest in our well-being.  There were others, but those were key consensus conclusions.

Seventh Meeting ~ Magnus Ladulås ~ adaptation

The seventh meeting was held at Magnus Ladulås in Gamla Stan because of the quiet, semi-private atmosphere, lack of crowds and inexpensive food and drinks.  It took place in the wintertime, with a long hiatus due to schedules and Nancy being out of the country for a few months. 

The topic of the evening was personal change and adaptation in relationships
What kind of change is necessary and good in the context of a relationship in order for it to work?  What sort of people change in relationships, and when / how is that healthy or not?

We had a lively discussion that included people thinking that we can learn something as we adapt to the other person.  The other person must also adapt to our personality, hobbies and needs.  It is a win-win, if everyone is doing a bit of adapting, and no one is losing their identity, like a chameleon.  It is important to have an established personal identity, in order to have a healthy relationship.