This week, we discussed our love languages, based on the concepts and approach in Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts
To begin with, we each took the Five Love Languages quiz to assess our love languages.
Knowing your and other peoples' love languages can help us all find and keep healthy relationships. Dr. Chapman explains how important it is for couples to understand how each other and themselves both give and receive love. It is possible for couples to truly love each other, but to truly feel unloved because they don’t think the same about giving and receiving love.
Everybody generally has their own primary love languages for receiving love and giving love. It may be the same for giving/receiving, and it may be different.
The “Love Tank” analogy is a great metaphor for describing how loved someone feels. Like a gas tank in a car, our lives run best when our Love Tank is filled and constantly being topped off. The alternative is running on fumes and burning out.
Meeting people’s primary love language consistently will fill up their love tank and help them feel loved like they need. But if a partner fails to meet this primary love language, it might leave one feeling unloved and cause issues in relationships.
5 Love Languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
means you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc.
2. Acts of Service
If your partner offering to do something for you or help you finish a chore gets your heart going, then this is your love language.
3. Affection
A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language.
4. Quality Time
is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial.
5. Gifts
Your partner taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.
It was a great discussion.
How do you find out your
partner's love language, in order to communicate affection in the way
he/she can receive it? And how do you let them know yours?
Knowing your and other peoples' love languages can help us all find and keep healthy relationships. Dr. Chapman explains how important it is for couples to understand how each other and themselves both give and receive love. It is possible for couples to truly love each other, but to truly feel unloved because they don’t think the same about giving and receiving love.
Everybody generally has their own primary love languages for receiving love and giving love. It may be the same for giving/receiving, and it may be different.
The “Love Tank” analogy is a great metaphor for describing how loved someone feels. Like a gas tank in a car, our lives run best when our Love Tank is filled and constantly being topped off. The alternative is running on fumes and burning out.
Meeting people’s primary love language consistently will fill up their love tank and help them feel loved like they need. But if a partner fails to meet this primary love language, it might leave one feeling unloved and cause issues in relationships.
5 Love Languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
means you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc.
2. Acts of Service
If your partner offering to do something for you or help you finish a chore gets your heart going, then this is your love language.
3. Affection
A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language.
4. Quality Time
is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial.
5. Gifts
Your partner taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.
It was a great discussion.
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